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7 months out or so...

I've been lurking in this community for a while, trying to get some ideas for my wedding on 06-07-08. I'm pagan (rather an eclectic mix of Wiccan & Egyptian beliefs), while my fiance is agnostic. We'd like to incorporate some pagan ideas into the ceremony, without it "taking over" the entire feel (some in-laws wouldn't be pleased, let's just say). We definitely want to do a handfasting...but what else can I write into the ceremony? I'd like to have the elements present and perhaps a reading that is more pagan in nature? Any thoughts? Thanks!

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wiccabuffy
Oct. 30th, 2007 06:04 am (UTC)
*on phone with hubby*

He says that the people who might be of concern would be ones who don't see a mention of God (and only God, without the Goddess mentioned). His suggestion would to be focus more on the elements, since you're having an outdoor ceremony it shouldn't be a problem with that, either.

Perhaps jumping the broom could be included, too?
pagankittykat
Oct. 30th, 2007 03:24 pm (UTC)
(I post to this community and my sis responds...hehe)
Since we're doing a spiritually eclectic ceremony (including Tibetan prayer flags, a handfasting, a Navajo reading, etc.), I don't think people will care so much that we don't mention God/Goddess at all. It will make FH uncomfortable to do so, and me uncomfortable to only mention God...so that's out. I don't really want to jump the broom, only because we're smashing the glass at the end...it would seem like there's too much going on at the end of the ceremony (rings/vows, handfasting, then glass breaking). I'm mainly thinking about what other readings could be incoporated.
katie_r_doherty
Apr. 3rd, 2009 12:43 pm (UTC)
I know this comment is a little late since you will be getting married next month... but:
As far as having the elements present at the wedding, you could always have a small altar with the elements present. You could call all of the elements to join you before people arrive. You could also take a moment before exchanging rings to cleanse them. You could run the ring through a candle flame, hold it in some incense smoke, lay the ring in the salt, and then dip it in the water before you give them to your partner.

This way you don't necessarily have to talk about anything else pagan (unless you wanted to say something during the cleansing) but you would still be able to have the elements that are so important to you be an important part of your ceremony.
pagankittykat
Apr. 3rd, 2009 03:57 pm (UTC)
Re: I know this comment is a little late since you will be getting married next month... but:
Thank you for your comments! We were married last June, and we did manage to have many pagan elements in our ceremony without having to expose me as a "heathen" to my husband's family. It worked out really well.
katie_r_doherty
Apr. 3rd, 2009 04:46 pm (UTC)
Re: I know this comment is a little late since you will be getting married next month... but:
That's great! Congrats! My fiance and I are planning to get married next June (2010). I have a pretty conservative immediate family so we are actually going to have 2 ceremonies. We are going to have one with just family members (exchanging of rings) and then we will have the second one at the midsummer festival where we met (hand fasting). I have also been trying to find ways to sneak in little peices of my spirituality in here and there!

Congrats again!
pagankittykat
Apr. 3rd, 2009 04:48 pm (UTC)
Re: I know this comment is a little late since you will be getting married next month... but:
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! Having two ceremonies sounds like a good idea.

Good luck!
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